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One Decade of Southern Señora

Thank you loyal Southern Señora blog readers! More posts on the horizon! Toasting you with my Designs by Lolita Thank You, Thank You glass!

Ten years ago, I took a day off work to think about what I wanted to do next.  Over breakfast and many cups of coffee, I wrote out some ideas and filled in a guided worksheet I found online.  A huge part of me thought I wanted to go into photography professionally but when I finished several hours later, I realized I wanted to start a blog!  I even came up with the name, Southern Señora, which has served me well all these years.  And with that, sharing the Hispanic lifestyle in Birmingham, Alabama became my new mission.  Southern Señora launched on September 15, 2014, the first day of Hispanic Heritage Month!

Almost immediately, I had so much to share and the photographs to go along with the stories.  You see, I still wanted to include photography in whatever I decided to do.  Sometimes I would just look at a photo and a story would tumble out and I couldn’t write fast enough.  It was such an exhilarating feeling and even more so when I realized my stories were finding readers!  I was covering Latino events in Alabama along with stories of Fiesta, a scholarship driven Hispanic festival that I helped co-found in 2003.  I added some culture with Dia de los Muertos events and my collection of items I use for my altar each year.  And of course, there were plenty of stories about my family, my dad’s Mexican Zuñiga side, to help me stay connected to my roots. 

Over time, I wrote about my day-to-day life with my immediate family and shared stories of holidays and the lives of my husband Eddie, my children and my husband’s family from Alabama.  With my mother being born in Alabama, I wanted to give the right mix of Mexican-American lifestyle to these tales.  These stories had become more and more important for me to tell so that my children would have a record of them along with the photos taken.  I loved that they would be able to share these stories with their children too.  I don’t think people in general do a great job of family storytelling anymore so this was my way to preserve the family stories for my kids and grands.  One of my favorite stories is telling the birth my first grandchild, Amelia, during the worldwide pandemic.  I wanted Amelia to know what was happening in the world the day she was born and how different it was than a “usual” non-pandemic birth!  It was a joyous event even though we had so many restrictions imposed and we were still learning how to cope with during those early months of covid.  Historic, for sure!

My last blog post was two years ago in 2022.  It was the fifth anniversary of my retirement from corporate life and Eddie and I were about to board a plane for France for our retirement trip.  I had planned to write about that trip and many other things when we returned from this trip, but life was coming at me fast and furious.  Every time I thought I had the time to do a little writing, that time seemed to get snatched away from me.  Over the years, caring for my mother, a daughter getting married and four more grandchildren will do that to you.  Sure, I probably could have carved out time to write but there were so many times when I just wanted to do nothing.  Life was moving at such a rapid pace I wanted it to slow down a bit.  I mean, I’m retired and my friends kept telling me I didn’t really know what that meant!  But at the time it seemed more important to be as present as possible with everything going on in our lives.

During this time, I started focusing more on my Instagram posts and eventually getting into video and then reels.  Writing for insta eventually became a substitute for blogging.  Then, after returning from France and experiencing all that country had to offer – the food, wine, culture, history and people – I felt my writing had gotten better somehow!  I thought I was imagining this until a friend who follows me on insta mentioned how much she was loving my posts since the trip.  So maybe I wasn’t crazy after all!!!  Traveling had enhanced my ability to tell a better story, plus I was able to tell more condensed stories with photos on my social media platforms.

Recently though I’ve had the urge to get back to blogging.  I think what really convinced me was looking back through my blog archives and loving what I was reading.  Plus, re-reading these posts began sparking more story ideas!  There have also been so many wonderful things happening in the Latino community in recent years and subjects that have been resurfacing that I would like to explore and write about now.  For instance, discussions about being Latino and speaking the Spanish language comes up a lot as it pertains to a person’s identity.  I think this subject is getting even more attention with second and third generation Latinos now living in Alabama who don’t necessarily feel fluent in their parent’s native language.  This subject became the topic of conversation just a few weeks ago with several Fiesta Scholars and it has hung with me since then. 

Finally, I really want to write a book about Fiesta from its beginnings to where it is today.  It’s been 22 years since Fiesta, with the help of the community, began telling the Latino story in Alabama.  As a founder of this event, I can assure you we never had a conversation about how long we planned to have this event.  We didn’t wonder about its lifespan.  But did we think we’d be still doing this 22 years later?  Honestly, I can say we didn’t.  I have a trunk full of documents from the early days and emails of the conversations that took place to get Fiesta created.  At the time, we were just happy to get the first event produced and have scholarship money to award to Latino students!  The many blog posts about Fiesta that I’ve written can certainly serve as a way to help make this book happen.  Is there a market for this type of book?  I don’t really know, but I do feel as though it could serve as a wonderful history of a beloved event in Alabama, a history of how the Latino community has grown since the first Fiesta event, and that it is still going strong 22 years later.  Fiesta still has a lot to offer our community and state!

So, on the 10th anniversary of Southern Señora, I want to thank my followers and anyone who has ever read one of my blog posts.  Today I will raise a glass to toast you and to toast all the stories I’ve written and the stories I plan to tell in the future. I hope you will continue to follow me for what’s coming!   I will also raise a glass to toast the beginning of Hispanic Heritage Month 2022.  After all, there’s a reason I launched Southern Señora on this date 10 years ago. 

And as I restart my blog, I will close with the one word that ended my very first blog post…VAMONOS!

Once Upon a Time We Met – 39 Years Later

Me and Eddie – attending a wedding our first year of dating.

…the story continues…

Four years ago, I blogged about the night my husband Eddie and I met.  It was Veterans Day eve 1982 and we met at a work happy hour and ever since then we’ve celebrated this momentous meeting.  It’s always a fun reminder of where we started and a look at where we are today. 

Dancing at a family wedding last year

This year we went through an exciting change as a couple.  Eddie retired on August 1.  He had planned to retire earlier in the year but stayed on at work a little longer due to the pandemic.  About the time he retired, I was preparing to go back to work for 13 weeks with the United Way of Central Alabama’s annual fundraising campaign.  Eddie got to experience a little of what I experienced when I retired three years ago, ahead of our original schedule.  It’s hard to believe that we had both planned to retire together in June 2021.  But here we are now…both retired and ready for phase three of our lives together.

Enjoying the Apollo Ball this year at Boutwell Auditorium

When we go out to dinner tonight, I know we will talk about where and how it all started between us.  We will reminisce about the early days together, getting married and our early years together, having our family, building our home in Hoover, watching the kids grow up, countless soccer and softball games, band concerts, choir concerts, show choir concerts, girl scouts, boy scouts and everything else our kids were involved in over the years.  We will talk a little about our careers and how quickly work life went by…even though at the time it seemed like retirement would never arrive!  Most importantly, we will talk about what is next, where we will travel, home projects we have been wanting to complete, new hobbies we are excited to try and most importantly, how often we can be with our first baby grand. We always have a lot to talk about and thankfully, Eddie has a memory like an elephant so I count on him to keep me straight on events and dates.  He may have all of these details in his head but I take photos of everything so together we make quite the pair! 

Last year we headed to Firebirds for an early dinner and sat outside by the fire.  We had the entire patio to ourselves too.  Maybe it was because we went so early?  I remember telling Eddie we must have looked like we were there for the senior specials!  We shared some wine and an assortment of appetizers and then went home to enjoy a bottle of champagne.  It was a perfect evening.

I’m not sure where we will celebrate this evening.  I may let Eddie pick the place this year since he’s had a bit of a rough week and I’ll be driving us wherever we go anyway!  You see, Eddie had a bit of a chainsaw accident last week that required stiches and a foot boot.  You can bet we will be talking about that unfortunate incident at dinner too…and I may be blogging about it later! But I’ll let him make it up to me on January 4th for our 35th wedding anniversary…

Meanwhile, happy “first” anniversary sweetheart!

Happy 3rd Anniversary to Southern Señora Blog!

Cheers to 3 years!!!

Today is the day, 3 years ago that I decided I wanted to start a blog.  Well, that’s not exactly right…I started the process many months earlier…the research, questions about the mechanics of a blog, and many more.  Today is the day 3 years ago that I “launched” my blog!  I chose September 15th as my launch date because I wanted it to be significant and this is the start of Hispanic Heritage Month!  After all, my blog is a Hispanic lifestyle blog!!!

A few weeks ago I started looking back on my posts since last September.  I’ve written 47 in 12 months and took a little break from December through March this year.  I made many notes during the off months about what I wanted to focus on and the one subject that kept popping up was Fiesta.  I’ve written a lot about this festival that I’ve been a part of for the past 15 years.  We are celebrating our Quince this year so I’ve been reminiscing through photographs and telling some behind the scene stories of the event since 2003.  I’ve called this series – Fiesta Fridays and have two more posts scheduled before our anniversary event on September 30th!  It has definitely put me in a nostalgic mood!

My new YouTube channel! I have one video so far of my mother talking about the first time my dad kissed her! So Sweet!

Another thing I want to focus on more is creating video content.  I got a start several months ago when my sister Kanista was in town.  We decided to start video recording our mother telling stories of when she moved to Cambodia with her sister and parents, how she met our dad and eventually got married there.  That was such a fun night of great stories and laughter!  I need to do some editing and get them on YouTube and write a few stories surrounding the videos.  Again…another nostalgic event this year.

I used this for my profile picture the day I retired on July 7th…

The other major change in my life this year that had me nostalgic (briefly!) was retiring in July from my corporate life.  I worked for the same company for 37 years and while this happened a little sooner than I had originally planned, I honestly haven’t looked back.  I’ve had two months to reflect and think about what comes next and yet, there isn’t any pressure to jump into anything right away.   That’s been my biggest realization in all this…I can do nothing!  I can stay in my pjs all day and drink coffee until it’s time for wine!  The difference in my day-to-day routine (do I have a routine??) is being able to do what I want, do what makes me happy and create projects that are meaningful to me.  Who knows what opportunities are out there waiting?!

Right now, my time has been focused on Fiesta and the success of our anniversary event.  I’ve also been doing some work with my dear friend, Willie Chriesman, on his digital media venture that celebrates the people, places and trends that make Alabama food and drink great.  I’s called “a la carte Alabama”  and we’ve already been invited to a number of events covering new restaurants, Birmingham Restaurant Week and other festivals.  This is giving me the opportunity to use my photography skills and I’m sure there will be some writing involved with Hispanic foods and wines that I can’t wait to share!

Covering Restaurant Week as a contributor to A la Carte Alabama!

So, how do I celebrate year three of Southern Senora?  Well, I figured it was about time to create a Southern Senora Facebook page!  I know…I know what you’re saying – “you’ve waited 3 years to do this???”  Yeah…I don’t know why it has taken me this long in all honestly.  Maybe I was looking for just the right time.  And as it just so happens…today is the first day of Hispanic Heritage Month and this IS a Hispanic Lifestyle blog so…..

Today I launch my Southern Senora Facebook page to celebrate my 3rd year of blogging! Check it out!

Once Upon a Time…35 Years Ago…We Met

Nov 2014 - celebrating the anniversary of the night we met!

Nov 2014 – celebrating the anniversary of the night we met!

It was Veterans Day eve and I had UAB Chamber Choir rehearsal that night.  I remember all my friends from work were heading out to a “happy hour” and I was a little disappointed that I wasn’t going with them.  But the Chamber Choir was getting ready for a performance and I knew I couldn’t miss rehearsal so…

A friend of mine said she would go later if I felt like it.  So after rehearsal, I called her and we both got ready and headed to the happy hour.  It was close to 10 p.m. and I thought there wouldn’t be anyone there.  Turns out Mr. Right was there!  And the party was just getting started!

Our big group danced and sang along with the band for the rest of the night.  The band kept asking for requests and I kept asking them to play “Werewolves of London” by Warren Zevon to no avail.  (I still do this when I’m out and I’ve yet to have anyone play it for me!)  Eddie and I kept drifting toward one another when we were all dancing together and eventually we ended up dancing together.  We had both been noticing each other at work and he told me later he’d had a secret crush on me when he’d see me at the office.  I confessed the same to him.

This was our 30th "first" - 2011 and we were headed to Flemings that year for dinner.

This was our 30th “first” – 2011 and we were headed to Flemings that year for dinner.

Veterans Day eve became our “first” anniversary – the anniversary of the night we met and we’ve been celebrating it every year since.  When the kids were little we’d have dinner at home and play up about the night we met.  As they got older, we started going out to celebrate and reminisce about meeting and when we dated.  It’s fun to keep those stories alive and even more interesting when new details emerge!

Two years ago we went to Firebirds for dinner.  I don’t know if it was the way we were talking or what, but the server asked if we were celebrating something special.  We said, “yes, the anniversary of the night we met 33 years ago.”  She thought that was the coolest thing ever and by the end of the meal, she brought out a fabulous dessert on the house along with a card addressed “To the sweet couple!” When we opened it, the entire staff had signed the card!

Tonight we will continue the tradition of celebrating our “first” anniversary.  If there is a band wherever we go I’ll yell out “Werewolves of London” as a song request.  Meanwhile, I’m so thankful that I decided to go to that “happy hour” on that night 35 years ago.  I can’t imagine my life without this wonderful man in it!

Happy “first” anniversary, sweetheart!